Client Spotlight: Liz - Perception vs. Reality
January is a time of renewal and setting resolutions that we did not manage to succeed in the previous year. We all know that most of our well-meaning new years resolutions end up fading, sometimes before they even started. We often end up starting the cycle all over again the next year mostly because our goals are unattainable and just plain unrealistic.
Just like new years resolutions, my client Liz was struggling to make the changes to her body that she felt she “needed” in order to be happy and healthy. It was really hard for Liz at the beginning of our coaching sessions. But she now has come to the realization that the diet mentality has not been benefitting her at all and she has slowly been able to release the negative beliefs she had about herself.
I wanted to share her testimonial about her one-on-one coaching sessions with me this past year. I wanted to share her journey with you because she went from not being able to let go of limiting beliefs about herself to finding what actually makes her feel free and happy as herself in her own skin.
Before you decided to do one-on-one coaching, what was your biggest challenge?
“I’ve been fighting an internal battle for most of my life when it comes to how I feel about my own body. One major challenge in regard to body image was taking time to understand perception vs. reality. But maybe the biggest challenge has been learning how to appreciate and love my body the way it is in the present moment.”
How did that problem or challenge make you feel?
“I kept thinking I just hadn’t found the right diet for my body, or that I was lazy; I blamed myself for not succeeding in losing weight. I always felt guilty about eating “bad” things and would beat myself up every time I did something “wrong” when it came to my diet and exercise regimen. I often felt ashamed of myself when it came to my body.”
What kinds of gains, incomes, or outcomes have you received since?
“Through my work with Heather, I realized that my struggle really lies not in the actual shape or size of my body, but the way I perceive my body. I understand now that there really is power to be gained in changing your outlook. The concept is simple, but it really takes time and effort to see yourself in a different light, especially if you’ve spent most of your life with a certain mindset. Working with Heather on a regular basis really helped make me aware of the negative self-talk I was consistently engaging in. And while it is still a work in progress, I know now that it is positive self-love that makes me feel good in my body--not a number on the scale.”
My favorite part was?
“For me, the best part was having someone to open up to and who really listened about my struggles with weight, body confidence, and really just whatever else is going on in my life. Heather genuinely cared about how I felt about myself and paid attention to the stories I was telling myself--and then made me aware of how and why those stories help or hinder my progress towards a positive body image.”
One-on-one coaching was the right fit for me because:
“I don’t do very well with the “tough love” approach that some coaches take when working with clients. Heather has a very gentle, patient and understanding approach to her coaching. I felt like I was just chatting with a very good friend, and that allowed me to really open up to the possibility of change.”
Here’s why I’m looking forward to the future:
“Obtaining a fully positive body image after a near-lifetime of self-deprecation is hard work. It requires consistently moving towards the positive while rejecting the negative. Even though I am still working at it, I know now that feeling good about my body doesn’t actually have anything to do with how I look, but rather how I look at myself. I’m so grateful I have someone like Heather to help guide me in that direction, to help me realize that loving my body is within my reach, just the way I am, right now.”
Since her six months of coaching, Liz continues to practice intuitive eating and is working on making her art a full-time job. She also was married in October and even did the lovely artwork for the Mirror Writing Workbook that is a part of my coaching programs. You can check her out on Instagram @goldenchild_art.
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