Body Beyond Image
The Blog.jpg

The Blog

I'm here to share my story and experiences with you woman to woman. I am not a doctor or therapist. Some of the posts are just my advice and/or what I was taught through the Psychology of Eating's Certification program. 


 

 

Welcome to the Blog!

I'm here to share my story and experiences with you, woman to woman. I am not a doctor or therapist. Some of the posts are just my advice and/or what I was taught through the Psychology of Eating's Certification program. A lot of them are every day experiences.

If you have a similar story or experience with food and body I'd love to hear! Comments and emails are welcome about whatever you feel like sharing. 

 
Hi I'm Heather McAlister! I am a fighter, a survivor, and a mother. All of these things in my life have led me on a great journey to becoming the woman I am today.

Hi I'm Heather McAlister! I am a fighter, a survivor, and a mother. All of these things in my life have led me on a great journey to becoming the woman I am today.


You Can't Fix What's Not Broken!

 
Photo by Seriously Sabrina

Photo by Seriously Sabrina

 
 

Usually when we look in the mirror we immediately see the parts of our body we think need to be fixed. All we see are the things we are unhappy with because those parts aren’t perfect. We already know that no one is perfect, so why do we feel we need to fix parts of our body? Is it even possible to look into the mirror and not see flaws but instead, see beauty?

This thought process of needing to “fix” parts of our body has been passed on to us by our mothers, grandmothers, sisters, and friends. It has long been embedded into our heads that cellulite is bad, that we must be fearful of gaining weight and so on. We have always felt the need to keep up with what’s trendy and unfortunately, our bodies have become accessories. But beneath the negative belief that we are broken there is a way out.

It is possible to see your body as something beautiful when you are able to let go of the need to “fix” it. You do not need to fix yourself and neither does anyone else need to “Fix” you because there is nothing wrong with what you are seeing in the mirror. A place to start seeing the beauty of your body is to look at the ways we try to fix it.

  • Control- We try to control what cannot be controlled. Some of us do this by trying to change our bodies into a shape that just isn’t our body shape. We control the food that we eat to ensure that we maintain that shape.

  • Restrict- Some of us restrict the food that we eat because we believe that is what will keep us at our desirable size. Most of us don’t even allow pleasurable foods into our diets because we associate pleasure with something bad.

  • Punish- We even think that when we don’t follow our controlling rules of restriction that a punishment will put us back on track but in reality, it only takes us further away from what we want to accomplish.

  • Blocks- Sometimes we put up blocks in life and don’t want to have to face the hardships or traumas we may have been through and we suppress our feelings so we don’t have to hurt. This can lead some people to binge eat in order to find a way to deal with the pain.

  • Disembody- We separate from self and lose the ability to be intuitive around food. Culture promotes unawareness therefore, we have become disembodied and we lose what it is like to be in our body. This causes us to lose our natural ability to be intuitive with food and even self.

When we are trying to “Fix” what cannot be fixed, we completely lose sight of who we are as humans in this life. We then become fixated on how we think our body should look which then becomes the main focus in our lives and this can cause us to miss out on what we all want from this life, happiness.

Trying to “Fix” our bodies is not going to bring us happiness. When we can shift our focus to the things in our life that truly matter to us, we find that we can be happy now in the body we were given. So, how can we let go of fixing?

  • Don’t Judge- In order to move on from anything you must stop judging yourself. Gabby Bernstein says, “The way out of judgment begins when you witness the judgment without judgment.” Judging yourself only keeps you stuck in the same place you are trying to get out of. Showing some love to yourself is going to make the process so much easier.

  • Forgive – It’s hard to not judge yourself without forgiving yourself. It’s easy to forgive others but it’s hard to forgive self because we are harder on ourselves. Finding the space to forgive yourself after a judgmental thought is also a way of showing yourself some love.

  • Identify Toxic Thoughts- A toxic thought is a negative thought you have about yourself and your body. When you can identify the toxic thoughts you have about yourself and show up with love and forgiveness for yourself, the easier it will be to let those thoughts go.

  • Change your environment- Think about who you are around that is affecting you negatively. Take a look at your environment and decide if this is the kind of people you need to be around. It’s easy to feed off of others negative energy. Their negative energy can be draining and can leave you stuck in an unhealthy environment.

  • Allow pleasure- Let go of control in order to allow pleasure in. Our relationship with pleasure can profoundly change the health of our relationship with food and the health of our body.

  • Learn to Embody- In trying to fix yourself you can also lose who you are as well as your natural intuition. Come back to your true self and you will find your intuition and love for yourself.

When you can truly see all the ways you are trying to fix yourself it’s easy to realize that you were never broken in the first place. And when you can allow yourself to let go of all the things about you that need “Fixing” is when you can let love in. When you can learn to let go and accept love is when you will be able to look in that mirror and see what true beauty is. 

 
Heather McAlisterComment